Grief Up Close (human speak-pt.1)

Dezi:  Well here it is Furiday again and what a week it’s been.  Blogville sed goodbye to a favowit cat blogger   and hello to a foo new ones.  And wiff dat bein’ sed, weez fawt dat we wuld do a short series on grief and your fur family members. Weez fawt we wuld  do one of those educational postys we purrawmissed you wuld see.  Let me stawt by sayin’ dat there awe tons of web sites and books and all kinds of resources out their on gwievin’ inpets, so stead of wepeatin’ and copyin’ them, weez gunna tell yous ‘bout ow own expewience wiff gwief.  And because me has not lost a furmily membew thank God, sis Lexi will be writin’ todays posty, and in hooman speak.  So sissy take it away.

Lexi:  Thank you Dezi.  As a lot of you know I have lost 3 brofurs during my lifetime.  Since I came into mommys house immediately after being born, this is the only life I’ve ever known.  And when I arrived there were already 2 cats in residence.  Devon, a 4 year old Himilayan, and Lucky a 28 day old Siamese.  Of course there were plenty of fosters, but they came and went so quickly I never got attached.  Not like I did with Devon and Lucky.  I was a little over a year old when Devon took ill.  I had grown up with him acting much like a father to Lucky and I.  Suddenly one day out of nowhere He attacked me while I slept.  Mommy of course intervened, but I was stunned.  An hour later he was acting like normal again.  I loved him and wanted to comfort him so I went to lay down next to him and so did Lucky.  Things were fine until a few days later, and again out of nowhere he attacked me.  Again mommy intervened, only this time she took Devon to the VET.  After an exam and some tests mommy was told he most likely had a brain tumor and that treatments would cost a small fortune and would only prolong his life a short time. 

 

(Don’t furget to hovew ovew da fotos to read captions.)

 

Devon

Mommy made the hard decision to say goodbye to Devon and return home alone.  Lucky and I were very confused.  We didn’t understand why Devon wasn’t with mommy.  None of us had ever spent the night away from each other. Lucky and I didn’t eat dinner that night.  Instead we both kept going from room to room and meowing for Devon.  We also spent time sitting with mommy who had leaky eyes really bad.  This kind of behavior went on for a few days.  The only thing that changed is that Lucky and I began to eat a little.  After about a week mommy sat down with Lucky and me and told us that Devon wasn’t ever coming home.  He had gone to heaven where he was no longer sick.  Although we didn’t completely understand all of mommys words we did understand she was talking about Devon and that she seemed as sad as we were.  But she held us and comforted us and spoke softly and made us feel as though everything was going to be alright.  We continued to look for Devon for a few more weeks, and during that time mommy increased our play time and treat time, and kept us occupied while we were awake.  And at night she would sing to us as we massaged her to sleep.  Eventually we quit looking for Devon and moved on.  

  Devon, Lexi and Lucky

Lucky and I became even closer through the years until the day he said good bye.  We will save this for the next post as our relationship was much stronger.  Please stay tuned for more on grief in pets.  We hope to offer you tips and tricks and ways to deal with it and help your fur friends cope and adjust. 

Til da nex time……………..Be Blest!!!

 

Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses 

Dezi and Lexi

About Deziz World

My name is Deztinee. I am a Ragdoll. I was born 11/1/2009. I am a service cat along with my sisfur RaenaBelle, also a Ragdoll, for our disabled human mommy. My sisfur Raena was born 4/21/2016. In March of 2016, mommy and I had to say goodbye to my mentor Alexandra (Lexi), a black tabby born 4/29/1999. This blog is about our daily life from the kitty's point of view. We were both rescued from bad situations and our mommy raised us and trained us to be service cats. I want this blog to be interactive and get to know all of you, so comment and visit often. I will also offer advice, training tips and education when possible. Copyright © 2014 - 2017 {Audra High via Deztinee High and RaenaBelle High} All Rights Reserved All personal content (story's, poetry, etc., videos and music) are the property of the human behind Deziz World, and may not be used, copied or otherwise re-published without prior written permission/consent from the author (A. High-the human behind Deziz World). We have an amazon.com wish list and a PayPal account if you would like to help/donate to us.

Posted on August 29, 2014, in Meez Meows and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 62 Comments.

  1. Yow Dezi we iz no longer alone in diz werld are we?? So many bunderfull like minded peeple. So many lubly 4 leggedz too!
    We iz still in AAAWWW of all da furendz we haz made here!
    Furendz just like ya 😉
    Lub ❤ Nylablue ❤

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  2. Dere are so-o many furabuluss Mumz’ n Dadz’ here n on seppyrate bloggiez….like Brian’z Home n TimmyTomkat!!! Furabuluss Dad’z to all dere kittehz…
    Til me n Mum came to Werdpress we not nose dere were so many lubly peeple in da werld. 😉
    Lub Nylablue xxxx

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  3. Kitty Cat Chronicles

    This series on grief is a great idea, Dezi. It seems like we have lost so many furiends in the Cat Blogosphere over the past few weeks. None of us have lost a family member before, but Mom and Dad have. They just had to say goodbye to Dad’s woofie boy Doc a couple of weeks ago, and Mom has lost a few kitties and woofies before too. We hope we don’t have to experience this anytime soon. Thanks for sharing your experience, Lexi. Devon sounds like he was a good kitty, and a handsome boy too! So sorry that you lost him so suddenly and tragically. Love you guys!

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    • Fank yous. Weez too hav lost lots of furiends since bein’ online and weez hav ben asked questions ’bout how to deal wiff it and sum dat didn’t fink animals gwieved. So weez fawt we wuld post ow speriences and hope to help udders. Me hopes nun of yous hav to go fwu this eevew, cuz weez just tired of losin’ furiends. Fanks, Devon wuz a wunnewful kitty Lexi sed, and a gweat bwofur.

      Yes, weez so sowwy ’bout Doc, but hims is much better off now, cuz hims no longer sick or hurtin’.

      Luv ya’

      Dezi

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  4. Yow yer doin a fine fing dere Dezi n Lexi n Miss Audra! Dere iz a sayin we use here: “A prublem shared iz a purblem halved”. It iz so true if we talk bout our greef n sadz it will help us to werk thru it all. Mum sayz she accepted Mingflwoer’z passin beecause she had me to take care of. Wif me health prubz it helped her…she had taken care of Mingflower fer 2 1/2 yeerz cause Mingy had Kidney Diseeze…Me asked Mum back in Feburary iffin me waz too much fer her n she said “No Nylablue yer not da prublem; iz me.” She went in talked to Dr Dave n he helped her wif ideaz on how to keep her stress down.
    Me NOSE me iz ALOT of WERK eben if Mum sayz me not. Sumtimez she can barelee brush me she iz so tired butt she neber complanez…she iz a warrier Mum..just like Miss Audra ❤
    Lub ya all, Nylablue x0x0x0x0

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  5. Yow Lexi dat iz sum sad storey ’bout Devon kitteh! he waz so hansum n diz so sad he had to go to Summerland so soon…too soon!
    Ya n Miss Audra did so well to accept his leevin n go forwerd. Phankz fer sharin yer storey wif us….
    Run free sweet Devon….maybee he iz wif Mingflower n Simpson n Muffin n Silky-Auburn (sum of Mum’z kittehz).
    Lub ❤ Nylablue ❤

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    • Yep himz wuz a speshul boy awlrite, but himz in hebben now sittin’ at d afeet ob Jesus waitin’ on all of us. Weez hope to help udders wiff der greeb by shayrin’ owrz.

      Lubz ya’

      Lexi and Dezi

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  6. I’m sorry you lost your furrends but glad you made new ones.

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  7. Judy & C.A.T.S

    Thank you for this post. You are right, we experience grief. Andy’s mom Ginger took care of all of us like we were her kids. Her nickname was Mama Kitty. She got sick with Chronic Renal Failure. We all knew that she was sick but when she left we all paced around meowing and looking for her. Mom Judy explained to us what happened to Mama Kitty. It was really rough on all of us for awhile. Love, Cali, Andy, Tater and Shelly (C.A.T.S)

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  8. Beautiful but heartbreaking post. It’s so sad but they will always be watching over you from the Rainbow Bridge.
    Purrs xx
    Athena and Marie

    athenacatgoddess.com
    purrsfulloflove.com

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  9. ((((hugs))) thank you for sharing, saying goodbye is never easy 😦

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    • No it isn’t, but unfurtunately is sumfin’ weez hav to do on occasiion. Altho’ weez wuld rather those occasions happen a lot less than they do. We hope dat by shawin’ ow experiences udders can finnd sum help, tips and comfurt.

      Luv ya’

      Dezi and Lexi

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  10. We miss those we lose ’cause we love them. The more we love them, the more we miss them but lovin’ and bein’ loved, makes it all worthwhile.

    Purrs,
    Nissy

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