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Dezi: Well here it is Furiday again and what a week it’s been. Blogville sed goodbye to a favowit cat blogger and hello to a foo new ones. And wiff dat bein’ sed, weez fawt dat we wuld do a short series on grief and your fur family members. Weez fawt we wuld do one of those educational postys we purrawmissed you wuld see. Let me stawt by sayin’ dat there awe tons of web sites and books and all kinds of resources out their on gwievin’ inpets, so stead of wepeatin’ and copyin’ them, weez gunna tell yous ‘bout ow own expewience wiff gwief. And because me has not lost a furmily membew thank God, sis Lexi will be writin’ todays posty, and in hooman speak. So sissy take it away.
Lexi: Thank you Dezi. As a lot of you know I have lost 3 brofurs during my lifetime. Since I came into mommys house immediately after being born, this is the only life I’ve ever known. And when I arrived there were already 2 cats in residence. Devon, a 4 year old Himilayan, and Lucky a 28 day old Siamese. Of course there were plenty of fosters, but they came and went so quickly I never got attached. Not like I did with Devon and Lucky. I was a little over a year old when Devon took ill. I had grown up with him acting much like a father to Lucky and I. Suddenly one day out of nowhere He attacked me while I slept. Mommy of course intervened, but I was stunned. An hour later he was acting like normal again. I loved him and wanted to comfort him so I went to lay down next to him and so did Lucky. Things were fine until a few days later, and again out of nowhere he attacked me. Again mommy intervened, only this time she took Devon to the VET. After an exam and some tests mommy was told he most likely had a brain tumor and that treatments would cost a small fortune and would only prolong his life a short time.
(Don’t furget to hovew ovew da fotos to read captions.)
Mommy made the hard decision to say goodbye to Devon and return home alone. Lucky and I were very confused. We didn’t understand why Devon wasn’t with mommy. None of us had ever spent the night away from each other. Lucky and I didn’t eat dinner that night. Instead we both kept going from room to room and meowing for Devon. We also spent time sitting with mommy who had leaky eyes really bad. This kind of behavior went on for a few days. The only thing that changed is that Lucky and I began to eat a little. After about a week mommy sat down with Lucky and me and told us that Devon wasn’t ever coming home. He had gone to heaven where he was no longer sick. Although we didn’t completely understand all of mommys words we did understand she was talking about Devon and that she seemed as sad as we were. But she held us and comforted us and spoke softly and made us feel as though everything was going to be alright. We continued to look for Devon for a few more weeks, and during that time mommy increased our play time and treat time, and kept us occupied while we were awake. And at night she would sing to us as we massaged her to sleep. Eventually we quit looking for Devon and moved on.
Lucky and I became even closer through the years until the day he said good bye. We will save this for the next post as our relationship was much stronger. Please stay tuned for more on grief in pets. We hope to offer you tips and tricks and ways to deal with it and help your fur friends cope and adjust.
Til da nex time……………..Be Blest!!!
Dezi and Lexi
Dezi: MeOW C’mon Raena, it’s Blest Sunday. And, our furiend CK has posted another 12 Amazing Facts challenge.
Raena: I’s comin’ sissy. Two of mine’s favorite things in one day, WooHoo!!!
Yeah, me likes ‘em too Raena. Let’s do the challenge furst and then we’ll get to our Blessings, okay? You can check out CK’s answers here.
12 Amazing Facts
Where would you like to visit but never live?
Me can answer fur all of us here. We’d luv to see Egypt and the pyramids, but we don’t think we’d wanna live there.
What song always makes you happy?
Ooooooh, I’s can fur sure answer this one fur both of us sissy. We luvs any song mommy sings to us. We purr with delight, ‘specially when she sings songs ‘bout us.
What’s one thing that makes the world go round?
We fur sure would say Luvs makes the world go ‘round. Unfurtunately, that’s not really true. Mommy says it’s money. Without it, you won’t live very long.
What do you think should be illegal that isn’t?
MeeeeOW Our list here could be quite long. We wish it was illegal everywhere to kill kitties and puppies fur food festivals. We wish declawin’ kitties was illegal. And more ‘purrtantly, we wish that the animal cruelty laws were stricter and actually enforced.
What kind of advice do you not want?
Hmmmmmm I’s guess we’d purrobably meow that we wouldn’t want any bad advice. But ya’ don’t always know it’s bad till ya’ get it.
What wouldn’t you buy even if you won the lottery?
Well this one’s easy. We wouldn’t buy any fish or kibble. Money or no money, we don’t eat fish and mommy says kibble’s bad fur kitties, and we don’t eat it anyways.
What are a few words of wisdom that you live by?
Oooh ooh, I’s wanna answer this one sissy. Mommy always says to ‘member, each day’s a Blessing and to treat others the way you wanna be treated with kindness and respect. And to start each day by fanky fankin’ God fur your Blessings.
Yep Raena, and ifin more peeps lived that way, the world would be a far better place.
What causes the most stress in your life.
Well, bein’ kitties, we don’t have too much stress. But we do get a little out of sorts when mommy stresses over our living situation.
What’s something you need to hear more often?
We can never here I’s luvs you too much. It’s sweet music to our ears.
What’s something you need to say more often?
We believe you can never say Me luvs you too much. So, We luv each and every one of you very much.
If you could choose anyone, who would you choose as your life’s mentor?
Jesus. We try to live by his example and the Bible.
What would be the title of the autobiography of your life?
Well, It’s Dezi’s World and you’re just livin’ in it fur me. What ‘bout you Raena?
Hmmmmm I’s think, Raena to the Rescue would be mine’s sissy.
Raena to the Rescue? What rescue?
Well sissy, when mommy saved me, I’s rescued her from her grief and you too. I’s truly got Blest when mommy saved me, but mommy says I’s just as much of a Blessing to her. And sometimes, our furiends say I’s make them laff. Mommy says laffter is good fur the soul and can help make peeps feel better. So, I’s rescuin’ them from a bad day.
Okay Raena, whatever. We are Blest to have the lives we do and be a pawrt of such an amazin’ online community. We are Blest to have a mommy who luvs us so much and each other. As we do each week, we’d like to remind everypawdy to take a minute today and every day to Give Thanks fur the Blessings in your lives. Fank you fur bein’ Blessings in ours.
I’s gonna link us up with the Kitties Blue fur Sunday Selfies sissy, and then maybe we can play.
Maybe Raena, we need to finish brekky furst. Me really likes the cool artwork we did with our selfies this week. And we wish you all a pawsumly Blest week.
Till the next time………………………………………………..Be Blest!!!
Dezi: Vibrant Blue
Raena: Navy Blue
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
Deztinee and RaenaBelle
MeOW Welcome to Service Cats and Everything Feline. We’re takin’ a small detour today fur mommy to pay tribute to an amazing Service Cat, me’s sis Lexi. A lot of you remember her; but fur those who don’t, she was mommy’s Service Cat fur 17 years. Sadly, kidney disease took her from us 2 years ago today. You can read more ‘bout sis Lexi, here, here and here. We’ll be back next week with our regular Service Cat posts. Fanks fur letting us honor sis Lexi’s amazing life and her memory.
My Dearest Sweet Lexi,
Hello my sweet angel. I miss you more than words can say. My heart aches, each and every day. Today marks two years since I last saw your beautiful face; and felt your paw resting on my hand, or the look in your eyes when they met mine. I’ll never forget the purr that could be felt and heard from across the room when our eyes met and we shared a slow blink. In that moment, no words were needed to express the love we shared.
I’ll never forget the day you were born…So tiny and yet so loud. You must have been terrified from the horrors that had brought you into this world. But, what I remember most is how you immediately quieted your screaming and started to rumble all over the minute I held you in my hand for the first time. You seemed to know, everything was going to be okay. You seemed to know you were home. You would have been happy to lay in my arms all the time. You never really needed a space of your own. I remember all those every 2 hour feedings when you preferred sleeping in my arms over eating. I remember when I would try to lay you down to sleep afterwards and you would wriggle your little body up under my shirt or arm or whatever you could so that you could stay close to me just a little longer.
I remember the look on your face the first time you heard me call your name. And I remember the love I saw in your emerald green eyes as they focused in on my face for the first time. I remember seeing the world in a whole new way through your eyes as you experienced everything fresh and new. Each day was a wonder and every experience a welcome challenge. I remember the fear when you thought you might have to leave me and the utter joy when I told you we’d be together forever.
I remember the perseverance and utter determination you had when learning each new task. And, the pride you felt when you mastered those tasks. You would strut around and chirp loudly as if announcing it to the world. I remember each night as I laid my head on the pillow and you began to massage my head and purr away the stresses of the day. I remember waking each morning to find you curled up next to me and how you would gently put your paw on my cheek and purr.
I remember each day that we spent together and never gave a thought to how it might end. I never imagined a day without you. Through all the ups and downs, you were always there. I remember how you fought the disease that wore your body down. I remember when you could no longer stand, but still managed to massage my head as I laid on the pillow each night. Near the end, I remember seeing that fear in your eyes once again when you thought or maybe knew, our time together was coming to an end. You had been my reason for living and the heart that beat in my chest. Maybe you wondered how I would go on.
I can tell you, it isn’t easy, and each day I miss you more. From an abandoned kitten to Queen of the Service Cats, you were that and so much more. Saying that final good night to you hurt me to my core. But, I wouldn’t have missed sharing your life for anything in the world. Dezi and Raena help me now, and fill my life with love. But no one or anything will ever fill the space occupied by your memories, your devotion and love. Those I cherish and think about every day with a smile.
3/9/2016 One of the last photos ever taken of Lexi.
I take some small comfort in knowing you’re pain free and happy again. I will always love you and miss you till the day we meet again on heaven’s beautiful shores. Forever here didn’t last very long, but someday it will have no end. Until then my sweet, my Lexi, enjoy your hereafter and think not of my grief or sorrow. Only think on and remember my love. I know you’re in the best of hands, those of our Lords’.
Loving You Always,
Till the next time………………………….Be Blest
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses