Welcome to another Service Cat Monday. We’re runnin’ way late today, but we’re here. We’ll be honest and tell ya’ we’ve been lookin’ furward to tacklin’ today’s topic, with a little excitement and a lot of trepidation. Trepidation, you ask? Cats get such a bad rap in society, that we hate to focus on any feline negative. BUT, ifin those negative issues aren’t dealt with, then peeps won’t know how wonderful and special all us kitties can be. So, let’s get the business outta the way and get on with today’s posty. The followin’ will be written in human English fur translator and reader ease. Our Service Cat Monday posts aren’t meant to be a step by step Trainin’ manual, as Trainin’ is all ‘bout Repetition and Rewards. We believe in a Pawsitive Reinfurcement Trainin’ Method. The tips, tricks and techniques we talk ‘bout are/have been used/developed by mommy thru her many years of trainin’ animals, cats in purrticular. Ifin ya’ have any questions, suggestions, or comments, purrlease leave them in the comment section or send us an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org, or use the form on our Contact Us page. It’s completely purrivate; nopawdy sees it but us. And, purrlease try to be as specific as pawssible ifin you’re askin’ a question ‘bout behavior. Ifin you’ve missed any of the posty’s in this series, you can ketch up by clickin’ the links below.
The topic today is all about Feline Aggression. Our dear sweet awnty Ellen of 15 and Meowing asked, Is there any hope of Re-integrating sweet Jinx into the family? When out with the other kitties, he automatically goes for the kill; straight for the other kitty’s throats and the fur flies. And, our dear friend Timmy and his dad, our pawsum uncle Pete asked how to deal with the sudden onset of aggression without provocation. And lastly, our sweet friend Valentine asked about littermates who have never gotten along and try to avoid each other as much as possible. And we’re sure there are many more of you out there facing some sort of aggression issue in your house. First, we’d like to remind you to read our Prep post There’s No Bully Cat Breed. This post helps explain the origins of the house cat and what motivates your furry purrer.
These three questions, altho dealing with aggression, are completely different. However, anytime there are behavioral issues/abnormalities with your kitty, the first thing you need to do is, Take Kitty to the VET. You want to rule out any possible medical reasons for kitty’s behavior. Cats DO NOT act out of spite or just plain meanness. There is always a reason as to why kitty does what they do. Now some of you may be wondering how mommy can speak to aggression, since we’re Service Kitties who get along, as did sis Lexi and me. Well, let’s just say, things weren’t always rosy in mommy’s house. We rarely talk about it, because it was a moment in time, and something mommy dealt with as soon as it reared it’s ugly head. But we feel we need to give you a little background with a look into the past.
We have quite a few friends that have joined us this past year and never met mommy’s first black tabby cat love, me’s sweet sis Lexi. Mommy was a foster mommy for newborns without a cat mommy when sis Lexi came into her life. At all of ten minutes old, sis Lexi started working her feline magic to make mommy fall in love with her. Mommy already had two kitties at the time and had no plans to add a third, so altho’ she loved Lexi, she had no intentions of making her part of the family. Me knows it’s hard to believe, but sis Lexi was a tiny kitty girl. This was no surprise as she was an Egyptian Mau that should weigh about 6 pounds full grown. Sis Lexi was special and grew into a large, not overweight, 30 pounds, due to her early cow milk diet that strengthened and caused her bones to grow much bigger. Anyways, since she was a foster, mommy would take her regularly to be shown at adoption events where she was caged and unfortunately poked and prodded by onlookers/possible adopters/children. She was also a little bullied by her more outgoing bigger brofur and littermate, who was the alpha of the litter.
Lexi as a little girl. Here she is at about 7 months old.
Lexi grew to hate those events. She had already decided she wanted to stay with mommy. So, what’s a kitty girl to do when the human isn’t paying attention to all the signs? On adoption days, Lexi would hide and hiss and growl her displeasure at being crated up and carried off to be caged for the day. Mommy ignored all the early signs, until one day, Lexi took her frustrations out on the resident kitties. Yep, teeny little Lexi attacked mommy’s resident kitties and drew blood. She made a stand. She was saying, “I’s don’t like those cages or the people poking at me.” She had been saying it, mommy just hadn’t been listening. But, with the site of blood, mommy finally got the message. Yep, mommy adopted sis Lexi herself and changed her name from Lana to Lexi. Mommy explained to her that she’d never be caged and prodded again, and that she would live with mommy and the boys (Devon and Lucky) forever and ever.
Devon yawning, Lexi with arms and legs around Lucky in sink.
As you can see, the boys are much larger than Lexi.
The boys were three times the size of Lexi and very laid back. At first, the boys’ gave Lexi a wide berth, while mommy was spending time reassuring her, that she had a forever home and helping to build her confidence through love and play. After a couple of weeks, Lexi and the boys not only co-existed, but as you can see by the above photo, they learned to love each other. Mommy continued to foster other kitties. Until that is, shortly after sis Lexi’s spay surgery. Lexi once again, found herself in a cage being prodded by strangers. Obviously, she didn’t understand the whole thing, but cages brought back bad memories. While mommy was gone to a rescue meeting, sis Lexi broke into a large crate with one of the foster kitties mommy had, and she killed it. Mommy was devastated. But, she loved Lexi and understood that she had acted out of fear. Through love, patience and a lot of confidence building, sis Lexi was once again, the loving kitty mommy always knew she could be.
Me on the bathroom vanity luvvin (massagin’) on sis Lexi in the sink.
The point of all this, is that Lexi wasn’t born mean. She certainly wasn’t raised to be mean. But early circumstances and experiences had caused her to fear cages and strangers. Now let me tell you, the rescue organization that mommy fostered with, had wanted to kill Lexi when she drew first blood. But mommy understood that Lexi had been giving her warning signs before she took those actions and knew that with stability, patience and love, she could overcome it. In Lexi’s case, her behavior wasn’t motivated by any medical causes but rather, Fear.
Sis Lexi and me in our old window purrch. We luvved
each other very much.
So, the first thing one needs to try to establish with an aggressive kitty, is the motivation behind it. If you’ve ruled out medical causes, then Motivation is the next step. Unfortunately, when adopting a kitty from a rescue or shelter, you don’t always know their history. However, ALL kitties send up warning signs before they start taking action; humans just need to be aware of what to look for. When adopting a kitty, try to find out as much as possible about their past. Were they a stray? Owner Surrender and why? Formerly Feral? Abused or Abandoned? These things can often help you to see into the kitty’s mind. By the time a kitten is 6 months old, their experiences will determine how they see the world; humans, other cats and animals. But don’t be discouraged if you adopt an older kitty. Although you can’t change the Natural instincts of a cat, you can change most of their Learned behaviors.
Cats like stability. Old folks and cats hate change. Did you know something as simple as rearranging the furniture can cause your cat to be stressed and act out? A cat that’s been bullied by others, may become aggressive when placed in a new environment with other kitties or animals? It’s the old, “the abused becomes the abuser” story. We suspect that might be the case for our sweet friend Jinx, but we don’t have enough information to truly make a diagnosis. The big key in having a happy and peaceful household with multiple cats is that all kitties be confident and own their territory.
Cats learn confidence from things like play, interaction and ownership of their surroundings. Having their scent present in their home, the furnishings, toys, and cat furniture is very important to establishing ownership for a cat. Co-mingling scents in multi cat households is a must. When introducing cats slowly, site swapping and scent swapping are also a must. The human scent is just as important as all the other kitties in a household; so a piece of worn clothing can be left in the area with the “aggressive” cat as well as a towel, blanket, or other highly scentable cloth with all other animals’ scent. And be sure to spend quality time with the “aggressive” cat, playing the “Scent Me Up” game and with toys.
A confident kitty can walk or stand their ground in the middle
of the floor while their housemate passes.
We’re gonna wrap this up fur today. We knew this was gonna be a really long post ifin we addressed it purr-opurrly, so we’ve decided to break it up into several installments. Aggression doesn’t happen overnight, so fixin’ it, isn’t gonna be a snap either. But, keep the hope alive in your heart, your kitty can be helped and everypawdy/kitty can live happily. To recap, see the VET to rule out any pawssible medical reasons fur kitty’s behavior. Excluding medical causes, look fur kitty’s Motivation. This may require you to look into the past, but take the time to try to figger out why kitty may be acting out. Are there any triggers? Does kitty give warnings and what causes them? Again, you might have to look into the past, but kitty didn’t start attacking without giving a warning furst. Make a list of your findings, so you can reder back to it during training and just in case you need it in the future. And lastly, help all the kitties be more confident thru play, ownership, scent swappin’ and the “Scent Me UP” game. Spend quality time with each kitty. We think this is a lot of work, but by next week, ya’ might have a better handle on what causes your kitty to be “aggressive”, and fur sure, you and kitty will have fun implementin’ these techniques. Remember, THERE’S NO BAD CAT!!!
Ifin you’ve missed any of the posts in this series, ketch up by clickin’ the links below. And be sure to leave your questions, suggestions and comments below. We hope you all have a pawsum week and join us next Monday fur the second installment in dealing with Cat Aggression.
Till the next time………………………………………Be Blest!!!
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
Deztinee and RaenaBelle
When the Handler Dies Proper Training Methods Pt. 1 & Pt. 2
Discipline: Stop Countersurfing Kitty Internal Disputes
The Rest of the Story Raena & the Wheelchair Pt. 1 Pt. 2 Pt. 3 Pt. 4
Stop Kitty’s Begging Calling For Help Options Pt. 1
Welcome to a very special Blest Sunday. As ya’ll know, we luv blest Sunday’s, but today is even more special. Today, is Mother’s day. We know this day is all ‘bout women who have 2 legged children. But what ‘bout those women who fur whatever reason don’t have 2 legged children? Or those who gave their luv to a child who didn’t have any? And those like mommy, who only have furry four legged kids? Well, we say ifin you’ve ever luvved and nurtured a young’un, be it furred or non furred, you’re a mother.
You’ve no doubt gone without at one time or another to make things better fur that young’un. You’ve laffed whether they were funny or not, and cried when they were hurt. You felt purride in their accomplishments and joy in their happiness. And gave fanks at the end of each day that they were close to you.
That’s right sissy. We salute all mother’s today and every day fur your unconditional luvs. We fanky fank you fur puttin’ us young’un’s befur yourself, and fur givin’ us the most pawsumest life.
Yep Raena, you got that right. We wrote a little poem fur all the mother’s of furries every where. We realize that not all furry children can do the things we do but we know they luv their mommies just as much as we luv ours. We’ll be givin’ mommy lots of extra luv and massages today. But befur we get started we wanted to wish you all the most Blest and Happy Mother’s Day ever!
My Life Wouldn’t Be The Same
Without you, my life wouldn’t be the same.
Maybe you found me, looking starved and scroungy on the streets.
Maybe you found me hiding in a cage
At some shelter, that took me in.
Maybe you found me online
Being fostered by a caring human.
No matter how you found me…
My life changed that day,
And so did yours.
I’m so happy you chose me.
Out of all the kitties in the world
You looked at me
And saw my inner beauty.
You saw passed my sad eyes,
My dingy fur and even my fear.
Now, I wait to hear your voice calling my name,
To feel your gentle caress on my clean shiny furs.
I watch for you from the window sill when you’re away
I wait patiently for your lap when you sit down.
My purr says I Love You
My meow says I need you
Without you, my life wouldn’t be the same.
©Audra High 2017
Hey sissy, Let’s remind everypawdy that they can read the whole Mother’s day article that goes with our poem at the Daily Mews.
Fanks Raena, there’s all kinds of pawsum kitty stories by some amazin’ writers at the Daily Mews. So be sure and hit that subscribe button while you’re there. Your emails will never be sold and ya’ won’t get tons of spammy emails. But you will be able to get a monthly heads up ‘bout some great kitty stories. Y, At this very moment, there’s quite a few kitties tryin’ to help their humans shed a few of those extra pounds. Nope, we’re not in that group, but there’s been some great articles from those who are. We also wanna fank all our furiends fur bein’ a pawrt of our lives.
Oh sissy, we are such Blest kitty girls. Our lives fur sure wouldn’t be the same without mommy and all our furtabulous furiends. ‘Member to take a minute today and every day to give Fanky fanks fur the blessings in your life. We’re joinin’ the Kitties Blue fur a special Mother’s Day Sunday Selfies. Mommy had plans to take some selfies with us fur today. She hennaed all that gray hair away and put on her made up face and grabbed the camera and then us.
OMC Raena, was that ever a fun exercise. Mommy must’a took a hunnerd fotos. Then, she loaded ‘em into the catputer to see what we had, and…
Oh sissy, did you see the one of just our ears and mommy’s neck? Mommy may be good at a lot of things, but selfie takin’ ain’t one of ‘em. MOL
You’re right ‘bout that Raena. But it was fun tryin’ to take selfies with mommy. Anytime we can spend bein’ close to mommy is a good time. Let’s wrap this up, and get mommy’s special day started.
I’s right behind ya’ sissy. I’s just wanted to remind everypawdy that part 2 of our innerview with Valentine can be read by clickin’ here.
Happy Mother’s Day!!!
Till the next time………………………………….Be Blest!!!
Dezi: Vibrant Blue
Raena: Navy Blue
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
Deztinee and RaenaBelle
Hey everypawdy, are ya’ll out there? Yep, it’s me, RaenaBelle again. ‘Member that innerview we had with Valentine? Well he just published the 2nd half, otherwise known here as “The Rest of the Story”. MOL You can ketch up on the furst part by clickin’ here, and then read all ‘bout us in the 2nd pawrt here. Here’s a little snippet from today’s article:
I continue my interview here with the Ragdoll girls of Deziz World – Dezi and Raena. The two are not only beautiful and loving, but also proficient as service kitties. For those of you that didn’t yet get a chance to read the first half of the interview, please see “Service Kitties Extraordinaire: Part One.” Let’s hear what the girls have to say on the topics of becoming a service kitty, free time, sisters, birthdays, love and making wishes.
Valentine: How does one become a service kitty? Do you need any type of certifications or credentials to become one?
Mmmmm This grass is so tasty Valentine. Fank you.
We hope ya’ll are havin’ a most pawsum weekend. And we wanna say again, Fanky fank ya’ Valentine fur such a pawsum innerview. We had a blast answerin’ your questions. We’ll be back tomorrow with some very special Mother’s day wishes fur you all.
Till the next time………………………………….Be Blest!!!
Luvs and Hugs and Kitty Kisses
RaenaBelle and Deztinee
(Dezi sits quietly eating her breakfast, while Raena gazes intently out the front door from her perch. Seeing something in the distance, Raena sits up with her ears pointed towards the front at alert. Suddenly, Dezi hears the loud familiar roar of the lawn crew’s terrible and possible cat eating machines.)
Run fur your life Raena!!! They’re here!!!
(Dezi meows as she runs down the hall leaving a half eaten bite on the floor)
(Raena runs after Dezi in a haze and meows)
What?! Why?! Who?! Where?!
(Raena stops at the end of the hallway at the bedroom door and looks back towards the living room and now closed front door. Raena hears a familiar voice piercing through the commotion of all the loud machines.)
Dezi!!! Raena!!! Girls, come eat your breakfast. I won’t let those stupid lawn men get ya’ll. You’ve got nothin’ to fear. Come on girls, I’ve closed the door. It’s safe. Come and eat your brekky.
(Raena appears first looking puzzled at why the front door is closed. None the less, she moseys over and takes a few bites of her breakfast and rubs against mommy’s legs to get a little loving. Dezi emerges from the bedroom with her fur all in a ruff and paces back and forth in front of her plate and Raena’s.)
It’s okay Dezi, You’re safe. I love you darlin’. Just eat your breakfast and ignore those silly men out there in the rain.
(Dezi takes a few bites and suddenly hears the sound of the leaf blower on the front porch trying to blow the wet leaves around)
Run fur your life!!!
(Dezi meows as she runs down the hallway again. Again, Raena runs after her, and again, she stops at the end of the hallway at the bedroom door and then looks back at mommy)
Sissy, all this runnin’ is makin’ mine’s tummy rumble. I’s don’t think mommy’s gonna be very happy ifin I’s chuck mine’s brekky all over the floor. Why are we runnin’ anyways? Those silly men can’t get past mommy. You know how mommy is, she barely cracks the door open when those kind’a peeps come knockin’. And so far, I’s not heard any thunder boomers. So the way I’s see it, is, it’s all good and we should just go and eat. C’mon, let’s go eat.
(Raena takes a few steps toward the living room and looks back)
Sissy? Are you in there? Are you lissenin’ to me?
(Dezi meows from UTB <under the bed>)
Me heard ya’ Raena. You’s go ahead and eat ifin ya’ want. Me’s gonna stay here a little longer. Me thinks me sees somethin’ that requires some more investigatin’.
(Raena meows excitedly)
What do ya’ see sissy? Is it another one of those flyin’ yucky bugs like I’s found the other day?
(Raena runs UTB where Dezi is)
(Dezi hisses so loudly mommy can hear it in the living room over all the noisy lawn crew machines and the girls hear a voice from the living room)
Girls, play nice!!!
Sorry mommy. No Raena, me didn’t find a moth. Why are you still here anyways? Me thought you were gonna go eat your brekky?.
I’s was sissy, but you said you found somethin’ and I’s thought you might need mine’s help.
Well, me doesn’t. Me’s been doin’ this a lot longer than you have, so me’s sure me can investigate it all by meself.
Well, okay sissy. But ifin It, whatever It is, gets ya’, don’t say I’s didn’t try to help. I’s gonna go eat mine’s brekky now. I’s don’t hear those noisy machines anymore anyhow.
(Raena heads back to the living room to eat her breakfast, and Dezi moves to the bedroom door and lays down looking toward the closed door. Raena meows loudly from the living room)
Hey Dezi, the lawn crew’s fur sure gone. Mommy says she’s fixin’ to open the door so you can see.
(Raena starts her head bob and bite over her plate)
(Mommy crawls to the door to open it and sees Dezi at the edge of the bedroom and calls to her)
C’mon Dezi, it’s okay. They’re gone now, so come eat your brekky.
Me’s comin’ mommy. Me was just keepin’ you safe from the UTB monster. Do you need some help crawlin’ back to the sittin’ lift chair?
Thank you sweety. I really appreciate you keepin’ me and your sisfur safe. Now you come eat brekky and let me keep you safe darlin’, okay?. I can get to my chair by myself, you just eat.
(Dezi eats a few bites and then heads up the cat tree for a short morning nap)
What a meownin’ we’ve had. Me will never unnerstand those stupid lawn peeps tryin’ to mow durin’ the storms. They sure do make a mess. Fank the cats our little birdies already flew off from their nest on our porch. Me thinks we deserve some treats today.
Treats? Did somepawdy say Treats? I’s want some Treats. How ‘bout our grass? Is that grass Valentine sent us ready yet? Did we get any Treats in that Chewy box the other day?
Yep Raena, mommy said our grass is almost ready. Me can’t wait to munch down on a few blades of that tasty green grass. And we did get treats to review this month. Let’s go make “The Face”, so mommy will give us some. And then me’s gonna take another nap. But befur me furgets, we have a winner fur the Animal Hearted Gift Card. A meowsy big ConCats to uncle Pete over at Timmy Tomcat’s bloggy.
Till the next time………………………………..Be Blest!!!
Dezi: Vibrant Blue
Raena: Navy Blue
Mommy A: Black
Luv and Hugs and Kitty Kisses